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Creating a Space You’re Grateful For

Dear Reader: 

It’s easy to take our homes for granted. We often complain about the noise, the mess, and the lack of privacy. But what if we took a step back and tried to see our homes differently? What if, instead of complaining about all the things we don’t like, we try to find things to be grateful for? Here are a few tips on how to make home a place you’re grateful for, even if it’s not perfect.

A couple of weeks back, I was talking to a man about how frustrated mess makes me and he told me about the gospel of closing the cabinet door and turning off the light. He told me the story of how his now-deceased mother-in-law used to always leave the kitchen light on and one of the cabinets ajar. He told me about how he used to get so incensed about it. Then he thought to himself, it’s easier to just turn the switch and close a door than get into an argument. 

Find the beauty in the chaos.

Our homes are often reflections of our lives. They are messy and chaotic because our lives are messy and chaotic. But instead of seeing this as a bad thing, try to find the beauty in the chaos. Embrace the fact that your home is full of life and energy. Appreciate all the little moments that make up your day-to-day existence.

For example, instead of feeling annoyed by the piles of laundry that seem to be constantly growing, take a moment to appreciate all the people in your life who wear those clothes. Think about all the activities they’ve been involved in and all the memories they’ve helped to create. Those clothes are more than just fabric; they’re a tangible representation of your life and all the things that make it extraordinary.

So next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by the messiness of your home, take a step back and try to see the beauty in the chaos. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. After all, your home is where your life happens. And your life is beautiful, even when it’s messy.

Make it your own.

A home is a special place. It’s where we can relax and be ourselves. It’s a refuge from the outside world. And it should reflect our personalities. Unfortunately, too often, our homes become just a reflection of the latest trends. We buy what’s popular, not what we like. We follow the herd instead of listening to our hearts. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Your home can be a true expression of who you are. All you have to do is make it your own. Hang some pictures, put out some plants, and light candles. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy, do it! Your home should be a reflection of you and your unique personality. So go ahead, make it your own!

Be present in the moment.

Getting caught up in thoughts of what could be or what might have been is easy. But dwelling on what’s not doesn’t do any good. Instead, try to focus on what is. Be present in the moment and appreciate all the good things that are happening right now, in this very moment.

The moment will be gone soon. Like that man whose mother-in-law is no longer with us. All he has is, what has now become a fond memory, of a woman who left a single cabinet ajar every single day. LOL.  

It can be helpful to think of your life as a journey. Each day is a new step, and each moment is a new experience. If you’re always looking back at what’s already happened, you’ll miss out on all the good things happening right now. So instead, focus on the present and savor all the little moments that make up your life. They’ll be gone before you know it.

Remember, it’s not forever.

It’s easy to be grateful when everything is going well. But what about when you’re struggling? When it feels like life is one big challenge, it can be hard to see anything worth being thankful for. If you’re finding it hard to be grateful, try reminding yourself that nothing is permanent. Your current situation is only temporary, and it will eventually change. So instead of dwelling on the negative, try to be patient and ride out the tough times. After all, better days are always ahead. Who knows, maybe even your current struggles will become something you’re grateful for someday. After all, they often lead us to growth and strength we would never have found otherwise. So next time you’re feeling down, remember that this too shall pass. And then find something small to be grateful for in the meantime.

Creating a space, you’re grateful for starts with changing your mindset. Instead of seeing all the things wrong with your home, try to find things to appreciate. Yes, it might be noisy and messy, but that’s because there’s so much life inside its walls! Embrace the chaos and make it your own by personalizing your space with things that make you happy. And if you’re struggling, just remember that your current situation is only temporary, and better days are ahead.

A home is a special place. It’s where we can relax and be ourselves. It’s a refuge from the outside world. And it should reflect our personalities. Unfortunately, too often, our homes become just a reflection of the latest trends. We buy what’s popular, not what we like. We follow the herd instead of listening to our hearts. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Your home can be a true expression of who you are. All you have to do is make it your own. Hang some pictures, put out some plants, and light candles. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy, do it! Your home should be a reflection of you and your unique personality. So go ahead, make it your own!

The Biblical Basis for Rest and How It Can Enhance Your Life

Dear Reader: 

The Bible contains references to rest, and it’s not hard to see why. When we rest, we give our bodies and minds a break from the stresses of life. This allows us to rejuvenate and come back stronger than before. This blog post will discuss the biblical basis for rest and how it can enhance your life!

The biblical concept of the importance of rest

The Bible is clear on the importance of rest. In Genesis, God rested on the seventh day after creating the world. And in Exodus, we see that he commanded his people to observe a day of rest each week. The New Testament also speaks to the importance of rest, with Jesus often withdrawing to solitary places to pray and recharge. The apostle Paul even writes that “we should labor, working with our own hands” so that we can “give ourselves faithfully to prayer and ministry of the word” (Acts 6:4). In other words, work is essential. Still, it should be balanced with periods of rest and refreshment. This principle is just as relevant today as it was thousands of years ago. In a world that is always on the go, it is essential to take time to rest and recharge. For Christians, this may mean taking a Sabbath each week to focus on God and spend time with family and friends. It may also mean taking regular vacations and sabbaticals throughout our lives. Whatever form it takes, resting is essential for our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.

How Jesus modeled rest

In today’s hectic world, it can be easy to forget the importance of rest. We are always on the go, juggling work and family commitments and trying to squeeze in a bit of leisure time when we can. However, Jesus himself modeled the importance of rest-keeping when he took time out to pray and reflect during his busy ministry. By making time for rest, Jesus showed us that even when we are at our busiest, it is still essential to take a step back and recharge our batteries. When we follow his example, we can find the strength to face whatever challenges life throws our way. So next time you feel overwhelmed, take a page from Jesus’s book and take some time out for yourself. You’ll be glad you did.

Practical tips for implementing biblical rest in your own life

To many people, the idea of rest seems like a luxury. It can be challenging to slow down and take a break in a world that demands more of our time and energy. However, the Bible clarifies that rest is not optional but essential for our health and well-being. Here are some practical tips for incorporating biblical rest into your life:

1. Set aside specific days for rest. Just as the Sabbath is set apart as a day of rest, you can set aside specific days each week for rest. Make sure to unplug from work and other obligations to relax genuinely.

2. Take regular vacations. If possible, plan a vacation at least once yearly where you can completely disconnect from work and other responsibilities. Use this time to recharge your batteries and enjoy some much-needed leisure time.

3. Make time for hobbies and personal interests. In today’s busy world, it’s easy to forget what we enjoy outside work or family obligations. Schedule some time each week to pursue your hobbies and interests, whether reading, playing sports, or going for walks in nature.

4. Slow down and savor life’s simple pleasures. In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to rush through life without taking the time to enjoy the little things. Make a conscious effort to slow down and savor life’s simple pleasures, such as a cup of coffee in the morning or sunset at night.

The Bible is clear on the importance of rest, and Jesus modeled the importance of taking time out for rest. In a world that is always on the go, it is essential to take time to rest and recharge. For Christians, this may mean taking a Sabbath each week to focus on God and spend time with family and friends. It may also mean taking regular vacations and sabbaticals throughout our lives. Whatever form it takes, resting is essential for our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. 

For me, sometimes rest is just taking 15 minutes with my office door closed and blowing bubbles with one of those summer bubble wand things… away from my paperwork of course. I find worship music restful and I sometimes spend some time just singing out loud on my porch. Find some ways to rest this week. 

Why Morning and Evening Routines are Important: How They Affect Your Day

Dear Reader: 

There’s a lot of debate about morning and evening routines. Some people swear by them, while others think they’re a waste of time. What does the research say? Are our morning and evening routines necessary? The answer is yes – for both your mental and physical health! This blog post will discuss the benefits of morning and evening routines and how they can affect your day-to-day life.

What is a morning routine, and why is it essential for your day

A morning routine is a set of activities you regularly do, typically after waking up and starting your day. Many people find that having a morning routine helps them to feel more productive and motivated throughout the day. There are many different ways to create a morning routine. The most important thing is to find what works for you and to be consistent with it. It’s also important to consider the best time to wake up based on your daily schedule. You may also find it helpful to write down your goals for the day or week ahead of time. A morning routine can help you make the most of your mornings and set yourself up for a successful day.

How to create a successful morning routine that works for you

A successful morning routine is all about finding what works for you. For some people, that means waking up early and taking time for themselves before starting the day. For others, it’s about taking things slow and taking the time to enjoy breakfast. But there are a few key things that all successful morning routines have in common.

  • They all start with drinking a glass of water as soon as you wake up. This helps to rehydrate your body and jump-start your metabolism.
  • They all include eating breakfast. This gives you energy for the day ahead and helps you to focus on your tasks.
  • Successful morning routines always end with taking some time to relax in the evening. This allows you to wind down and prepare for a good night’s sleep.

Evening routines – what they are and why they’re important

Most of us are creatures of habit, whether we realize it or not. We tend to like having set routines that we can follow day in and day out. This feeling of predictability and stability can be exceptionally comforting at the end of a long day when we want to relax and wind down. That’s why having a regular evening routine is essential for adults and kids. It offers a sense of calm after a busy day and can help improve sleep quality, promote healthy habits, and reduce stress levels. Plus, it can be a great way to bond with your family as everyone winds down for the night.

How to create an evening routine that will help you relax and unwind after a long day

After a long day, it can be hard to unwind and relax. However, creating a calming evening routine can make a world of difference. First, keep your routine relatively simple and consistent from one night to the next. This will help your body and mind know what to expect and make it easier to stick to the routine. Secondly, schedule enough time for winding down and relaxing before bedtime. This means disconnecting from electronics, reading a book, taking a bath, or whatever else helps you to feel calm and sleepy. Finally, avoid doing anything that will make it harder to fall asleep, such as working on a project or eating a large meal.

You can do a few things to increase your chances of success. This will help you stay positive and keep going even when things get tough. If you Slip up, don’t be too hard on yourself – everyone makes mistakes. Pick yourself up and start again tomorrow.

My dream morning routine is to do some sort of exercise every morning even something light as stretching but in reality that doesn’t happen. That doesn’t mean I don’t aspire to it. Every new day that dawns, we get to begin again!

Gratitude in the BIBLE

Dear Reader, 

As the last post for May, I just wanted to take a moment to get into some of what the bible says or presents regarding gratitude. I want to go into some bible stories. 

LEPER (LUKE 17:12-19)

Leprosy was a serious thing back in the day. It was so contagious that lepers were not permitted to engage in society.  Not even a little bit. They couldn’t go to synagogue. They couldn’t be with their families. They couldn’t even get a hug. And because of that,  it mattered not who was Jew or Samaritan… or any other prejudices because they had been cast out from mainstream society. 

In this story,  we have ten lepers that Jesus healed on their way to go to the priest. Only one leper recognized what had happened and he wasn’t a Jew. He was a foreigner and a Samaritan. He knew his status, and in spite of that, he went back to Jesus to thank Him. The bible says he fell on his face.  He was overcome by what Jesus had done for him; His whole life had been given back to him, just by being healed of a disease. 

Today we don’t physically throw people out of society for having a disease, so maybe the significance of the story is lost on us. But one of the simplest things we can do to show gratitude is to just say thank you. Out of 10 lepers, only one went back to say thank you Jesus. Let’s be part of the 10% of the afflicted who say thank you when healed. 

Ruth (THE ENTIRE BOOK OF RUTH)

Before I get into the story, I want to make a shameless plug for my own biological father’s book on the story of Ruth.  And remember, as an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. You can find his book here: 

Now that we’re done with that, the story of Ruth is very incredible. First of all, I would’ve left Naomi long ago. Secondly, I think it’s very rare for people to convert to another faith or travel away from their families for a stranger, and it was even rarer in those times. Then when given the opportunity to go back to her life as it was, Ruth is like no thanks, your people are my people and your God is my God now. If that isn’t an expression of living out life in gratitude to God and to others’ faithfulness towards us, I don’t know what is.  The other thing is without Ruth, Naomi would’ve died. The sole source of economic stability for women back in those times was marriageability. Naomi’s days for remarrying were over and she might have been able to survive on people’s charity,  but most likely she would have died. So Ruth’s gratitude was lifesaving. She also expressed gratitude to Boaz; the bible said she fell on her face—- like the leper earlier. Seems like gratitude involved a lot of falling on your face. 

Let’s not throw people under the bus or leave them to die today. While you may think that’s extreme, it’s not. Today there are many without what they need to survive— many of whom are in very close proximity to you: either family or friends or geographically. I think one of the greatest lessons of the pandemic is that we need community for survival. Gratitude also means helping others and allowing yourself to be helped. 


DANIEL (Daniel 6)

Let’s talk about Daniel. Daniel’s faithfulness to God was so famous that people set a trap for him. They knew that he openly talked to God three times a day facing a direction with windows open. They set him up. 

Daniel remained steadfast. He knowingly broke a law the next day when he continued his prayer routine.  He could have done it in secret. He could’ve been like you know what the king has been kind to me, let me not offend him. He did not do any of that. 

Let’s not let our gratitude for others get in the way of our gratitude toward God. Let’s not let our fear of others get in the way of our relationship with God. Let’s go out and be blessed, and engage in a life of gratitude.

Encourage Yourself

Dear Reader, 

This past weekend was my birthday so I took a little break for my birthday from posting. But one of the greatest tenants of living in gratitude is to actively encourage yourself. Most of the negative scripts that subconsciously run through our minds and break us away from the path of gratitude are actually brought to us by friends and family. Sometimes we have to close our ears and guard our minds and hearts.

 I’m reminded of the Tri-City Singers & Donald Lawrence’s song “Encourage Yourself.” The lyrics of the second verse are: Sometimes you (sometimes you) have to encourage yourself/Gotta pat your own self on the back, yeah, yeah/Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test/And no matter how you feel (no matter how you feel)/Speak the word over your life, oh, oh/Speak the word, and you will be healed (you will be healed)/Speak over yourself (speak over yourself)/Encourage yourself (encourage yourself) in the Lord.

So today I wanted to talk about some practical tips to engage in encouraging yourself. 

Encouragement on a monthly basis

One of the ways we can encourage ourselves on a monthly basis is by engaging in reflection. What’s different about this month than last month? The issue with this kind of open-ended reflection is it may cause you to reflect on the negative things. You may consider all the mistakes you made instead of all the wins. This is why I have a google drive encouragement folder. This folder contains the compliments & words of encouragement others have made to uplift me throughout the month or even years prior. It is helpful to be reminded of who I am. Record the good so that you can remind yourself. 

Encouragement on a weekly basis

Engage in weekly record keeping. For me,  this means I have a weekly work journal. What are my work wins for the week? What did I accomplish? I also have a weekly spiritual journal. What are my spiritual wins for the week? What did Pastor say this week that’s giving me life that I need to carry with me this week? I also engage in weekly habit tracking. Did I take 10,000 steps every single day this week? Awesome. Did I read a whole book? Cool. 

Encouragement on a daily basis

God is my refuge and strength. In order for me to walk in that, believe that, and practice that, I need to have contact with God. My prayer life looks different on different days. If I can spend a whole hour with God, praying aloud and singing in my studio apartment, that’s awesome. If all I can do is pull up Jireh on Spotify and listen to it while I read a single devotional on the Bible app, that’s ok. What’s been giving me some life these days is prayer journaling. I spend part of my morning praying on the page. I think this helps me start the day in a place of confidence and not in a place of scarcity and anxiety.